PLAYFULNESS • CURIOSITY • CONSENT •
KINDNESS • INCLUSIVITY
We Fabulonians are dedicated to providing a safer space for people of all persuasions to enjoy and express themselves freely and without fear of judgment or discrimination. We do this by observing our core values: The Fabulon Five.
While visiting Planet Fabulon, you are expected to observe these customs as well.
THE FABULON FIVE
PLAYFULNESS
Life is short and we want you to have fun with it when and where you can! When visiting, don’t take yourself too seriously. This is a chance for others to meet your most fabulous you! Lean into it and feel free to be creative in how you dress. Fabulon is like a physics-defying perpetual motion machine: the more you put into it, the more you get out of it.
CURIOSITY
Explore! Ask questions! Learn something new! A visit to Planet Fabulon is a chance to open yourself up to new experiences and step outside your comfort zone. Don’t spectate – participate! Talk to a stranger, volunteer to help out, or try out that sick new dance move you’ve been practicing at home in the mirror. You’ll be glad you did.
CONSENT
We Fabulonians champion active consent in all our interactions. It promotes greater feelings of well-being, safety, and mutual respect for everyone! It’s important to check in regularly with folks you’re interacting with, and only an enthusiastic yes means yes. What does this mean in practice? Don’t touch people without asking, and don’t invade their space without permission. Read more about our consent culture and reporting system below.
KINDNESS
The people of Fabulon have a popular toast that says: “help others, before you help yourself”. We encourage everyone to lead by example and to be excellent to each other. Treat our space as if it were your home, and treat others as you wish to be treated. If you visit Fabulon with kindness and compassion in your heart, Fabulon has a way of returning the favour.
INCLUSIVITY
We are all different, and that’s precisely what makes each of us so awesome. At Planet Fabulon we celebrate all beings. Everyone is welcome here, regardless of (legal) age, sexual orientation, gender expression, ability, body type, racial identity, or planetary origin.
Guided by these values, we hope to encourage greater creativity, personal growth, and community connection throughout the galaxy. We need your help to make it so. So pop on through one of our intergalactic portals and join us on Planet Fabulon!
*****
Consent Culture on Planet Fabulon
WHAT WE MEAN BY ‘CONSENT’
Everyone has their own personal level of comfort around physical touch and attention from others. Respecting these personal boundaries and respecting the signals you’re given is an important part of creating a space where folks feel safe enough to freely express themselves. So always ask before you act.
From hello hugs to dance floor dalliances and everything in between: only an enthusiastic, verbal “Yes” means “Yes”. No means No. Silence means No. Mumbling means No. Uncomfortable body language means No. Anything other than an enthusiastic YES means No.
HOW WE FEEL ABOUT CONSENT
People arrive at consent culture from many experiences. Most of us are not raised with consent education. Most consent violators are not monsters. We all can and will continue to make mistakes. That said, ignorance is not an excuse, the effects of our actions do matter, and taking accountability for our mistakes is a necessary part of learning to do better.
Building consent culture is an active and ongoing practice. It requires work and intention on the part of event organizers and attendees. A key part of this work is giving attendees an easy way to tell us when consent boundaries get crossed, and normalizing the process of reporting that information to us.
If you witnesses or experience a consent violation at one of our events, we want to know about it. We can only see so much, so we rely on members of our community to help us keep our spaces safer for everyone. We encourage you to seek out an organizer or Vibe Alive volunteer at the event to help you. If you can’t or don’t feel comfortable doing so in-person during an event, please consider telling us through our Consent Incident Report. This form is intended for incidents that range from the very serious to ones you might consider more minor. There is no statute of limitations on when you can report something.
<<<< MAKE A REPORT HERE >>>>
HOW WE APPROACH REPORTS WE ARE GIVEN
If you feel your consent has been violated or you’ve been made to feel uncomfortable at our events, please tell us. We will believe you.
Making a report is not pleasant, and it’s not easy. Our default position is to believe the reports we are given, with the burden of proof being on disproving the report. We will assume good faith when you report to us, unless and until we are given reason to believe otherwise. You have control over how public (or not) your report is. We will never divulge any information in your report to another party without your prior consent. Read the full details about what to expect when you make a report here.
You are not “rocking the boat” by speaking about something that made you feel uncomfortable. You will not face social consequences from us for speaking up, no matter who the report is about. In fact, we will thank you for doing so! We know it can be even harder to make a report about an organizer, someone with a position of authority in our wider team, or even folks with greater social standing in our wider community. We hold these kinds of reports to a higher standard of scrutiny and have additional procedures for handling reports involving organizers.
WHAT WE HOPE WILL COME FROM A REPORT
We are not here to decide whether someone is right or wrong or to label someone as “good” or “bad”. We understand that two people can have different experiences. We never make direct accusations or tell people they are guilty. Any conclusions or outcomes reached are not intended to be a definitive answer on an issue, or to be taken as proof of guilt. Outcomes are the result of the reporting process and are largely reached because of how people engage with our process.
The goals of our reporting process are, in order:
-
- To prevent continued harm to the reporting party
- To prevent harm to other community members in the future
- To be fair to all involved
- To encourage and normalize outcomes that prioritize accountability, growth, and transformative justice for those involved, over outcomes that rely solely on punishment
